Is trivia night actually happening?
Eight in the chat. You need five. And it's not really trivia without Alex and Theo. Who's Down For reads the room so you know whether to firm it up — before anyone has to commit.
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Not for
The party that's already on, or drinks in twenty minutes.
For
The trivia night that needs eight. The hike that needs Alex. The dinner you keep meaning to plan.
We took the group chat out of it.
Welcome to herding cats.
We figure out if there's a plan. The rest is yours.
Invite tools like Partiful are great when you know the event is on. But “is the hiking crew up for the trail this Saturday?” isn't an event yet, it's a maybe. That's where we come in: text everyone, capture soft commitments, tell you whether the plan's actually coming together.
Once it is, the rest is easy.
You set it up. We do the rest.
Create the plan
Drinks Friday. Hike Saturday. One screen, then we take over.
whosdownfor.com/p/drinksWe chase the crew
We text each friend a private link, then chase the slow ones. No app, no group chat.
They answer on a spectrum
Not just yes / no — exactly how down they actually are.
Read the room
Real-time read on the plan. Nudge, lock it in, or call it off — your call.
Why plans feel harder than they should.
Plans don't usually die because the date's wrong. They die because the signal is unclear. Group chats are noise, polls only ask “when,” and you're left guessing whether to push, wait, or call it.
The plan isn't a plan yet.
You floated something in the chat. A few people said maybe. Some haven't replied. Sending a formal invite feels presumptuous; letting it die feels like giving up. There's no good move — because there's no good signal.
Silence isn't neutral.
It can mean busy, polite, distracted, or not into it. We factor each person's silence into the read so you don't have to guess what it means.
“Maybe” isn't a plan.
We capture how down each person actually is: five levels from “Not going” to “Definitely.” Not just yes or no.
Nudging blind is risky.
Push when the plan can't take it and you kill it. You see the read first — momentum, who's in, who's gone quiet — before you decide whether to nudge, lock it, or let it go.
RSVPs aren't honest.
Force a yes-or-no and you get a yes-or-no — people RSVP yes and bail, or no when they'd actually have come if Theo did. We capture intent on a spectrum, so nobody has to commit before they know what's real.
Some friends bring the group together.
Every group has two or three anchors, the friends everyone else is waiting on. Tag them when you set up the plan. If they can't make it, we tell you before you've sent a single invite.
- AAlexAnchor
- TTheoAnchor
- JJess
- SSam
- MMaya
- RRae
- PPriya
- NNoah
- + 4 more
If Alex or Theo can't make it, this won't hit critical mass. Wait for their replies before chasing the rest.